E63: How to Fail + Make Happiness Your Compass
E63: How to Fail + Make Happiness Your Compass
Welcome to your Mindset Mastery mini training! Allow me to teach you how to fail and make happiness your compass! WOO WHOO!!
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[00:56] Mini Introduction to your host(ess): Valerie!
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[1:28] Failure
Key Questions:
What's your failure story?
How can we rewrite the script on what failure means to us?
Google's definition of failure:
The omission of expected or required action
…Who set the expectations?
[1:49] Reframe Failure
There are three ways we can start to reframe failure that propel us forward in our life and in our business:
1. Learning Opportunity
2. Skill Development
3. Falling Forward
[2:40] Learning Opportunity
You're growing when you're taking action out of your comfort zone
You're learning from the process and in the process
[3:25] Skill Development
An expert at anything was once a beginner
Building blocks that will help you stand higher and be bigger than any problem
[4:23] Failing Forward
You fall when you try, you fail when you quit
You are ensuring failure by NOT following your dreams in the first place
[5:21] Key Questions:
Learning Opportunity:
What have you learned form past “failure” processes and experiences?
Skill Development:
What skills have you been able to develop or improve because you took action outside of your comfort zone?
Falling Forward:
Turn your road blocks into building blocks! Stand higher to be bigger than fears/problems; and to see new opportunities!
[6:55] “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
[8:42] Your Compass
a.k.a. Your Internal Guidance System (IGS)
The key to tapping into your IGS is grounding and trusting
[9:33] Understanding Your Internal Guidance System
NOPE:
Sinking feeling in your gut
Heaviness in your chest
Tightening in your throat
Tension throughout your body
YES:
Lightness in your shoulders
Open heart and throat
Spaciousness throughout the body
Big smiles and feeling of calm
[10:37] Anxiousness & Excitement
Low vibes vs high vibes
The good news and the bad news
It takes 90 seconds for a feeling to move through your body, if the feelings don't move, you're likely stuck in a cycle and you need to question and reframe this [fear] story. Use the “Compassionate Awareness” workbook for support with this (available below!)
[13:20] “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
[13:57] ACTIVITY!
Materials: sheet of paper, writing utensil
Step 1: fold your paper into three equal parts
Step 2: in the first column, draw a picture of who you are today
Step 3: in the third column, draw a picture of the person you wish to be (6, 12, or 18 months from now)
Step 4: in the second column, draw a picture of what needs to happen for you to become this person
Step 5: look at the paper as a whole… what do you notice? What are the clues?
Step 6: is there something that hasn't been said? (or drawn, or written down?)
[17:45] Next Steps + Take Action
The clues are your next steps
Get uncomfortable: The magic happens outside of your comfort zone
Which action (/clue) can you take in the next 24 hours?
[18:36] “Imperfect action is better than perfect inaction.” – Harry S Truman
FREE “Compassionate Awareness” Workbook, click the yellow button.
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Podcast Host
Valerie LaVigne
Valerie is the creator and founder of Valerie LaVigne Life and the Women's Empowerment Show. She helps busy and empowered women create healthy habits so that they can become the best version of themselves and transform their lives. Learn more about Valerie here!
